After basic physical and emotional needs, there’s one need that drives people: the need for self-fulfillment, for meaningful achievement.Â Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs refers to this as self-actualization.
I feel that, Mr. Maslow. I do. There’s so much I want in this life, so many goalsÂ I want to achieve. That same drive and ambition is reflected in people around me. We’re always pushing ahead, striving for an ideal situation. And we’ll be truly happy when we get there.
I see so many people sayingÂ they’ll be happyÂ when. When they lose a few more pounds. When they make a bit more money. I find myself sliding into that thinking sometimes too. It’s a seductive mindset, the idea that one day we’ll reach a better stateÂ and find true contentment there. And we’re almost there, just one more step forward, one more achievement.
But if we’re not happy here, in the striving, will we really be happyÂ there, in theÂ when?
The truth is, the dynamic nature of life means we’ll always be pushing forward, always reaching. What if, every day, we’re just a day away from happy? We’ll arrive atÂ the end of our lives still reaching for thatÂ ever-elusive happy.
Over the last few years of life curveballs and jarring redirections, I’ve come to embrace an illuminatingÂ truth: contentment isn’t a destination.
It happens here. In the “not quite where I want to be yet.” In the “I’m still working on things.”
Happiness isn’t waiting for me on the other side of an exciting achievement. It’s already here. And it’s here because I choose it. I choose to celebrate all that is good in my life.Â I choose contentment by shiftingÂ my focus away from the mountain of things I want to the mountain of things I have.
I’m not saying I’m going to sit back and accept my life as it is. Contentment does not requireÂ surrender. Ain’tÂ no give-up happening here, let me assure you.
I’m still striving. But I choose to find contentment in the striving, joy in the incredible opportunity toÂ chase after achievements.
There was a time when I was a day away from happy. (Yesterday. It was yesterday.) Today, happy is here because I choose it. I’m wrapping my arms around it and digging my nails right in because I’m not letting go, whatever happens. Happy is riding this life roller coaster right along with me.
Where’s your happy?