lady up

It’s common practice. Women gushing over male celebrities, sighing at their pictures, excitedly discussing their latest looks. It doesn’t seem to matter whether or not the women are married, or the marital status of the men they drool over. Because they’re just looking. That’s completely acceptable.

Or is it?

When a guy checks out or ogles a woman, we usually consider that inappropriate, possibly even bordering on sexual harassment. But somehow, when a woman eyes a man, it’s permissible, even encouraged by other women. In this age of equality, what sense does that make?

Women aren’t the only ones who can be objectified. When you eye that guy, you’ve taken a whole, complex person and turned him into a chunk of flesh. You don’t know him. You have no idea what he’s like, beyond the tabloid news. But you can’t find enough pictures of him. And somehow the fact that he’s a celebrity makes it okay for you to obsess over him.

Do you think objectifying men is helping you appreciate people as human beings? Do you think keeping a gallery of hot men is helping your marriage? Would you want your husband to have a photo album of hot women?

Lady up, sisters. You’re better than that.

Delete the pics and the posters. Stop obsessing over that celebrity you secretly wish you were with. Pull your head out of the fantasy world and focus on the real one. You’ve got a great life, filled with people who care about you. Do you realize how incredible that is? So show those fantasy men to the trash. You don’t need them.

It’s time to stop being a little girl and start being a lady.


  1. Jennifer K. Hale
    Apr 10, 2012 @ 20:26:57


    While I can certainly appreciate a handsome man (celebrity or not), I definitely think that obsessing over one is a bit…insane. And you are totally right–there’s definitely a double standard between men and women and the permissibility of ogling and obsessing. And a grown woman who obsesses over male celebrities, especially ones young enough to be her son(s) (ahem, Twi-Moms), is kinda icky.

    Great point. Love that– Lady up.
    I actually have a post planned on this new obsession with “Mommy Porn” that fits nicely with this. Again, there’s another topic that’s just…icky.


    • halee
      Apr 10, 2012 @ 21:16:09

      For sure! I agree – I can definitely appreciate a good-looking guy in a movie. But then the movie ends, and I don’t hold onto his picture like it’s candy. I’ve already got myself a man. A real one. I don’t need a fantasy.

      Yeah, “lady up” just kinda got stuck in my head when I was thinking about this. Feel free to use it. 🙂


  2. Abbie
    Apr 10, 2012 @ 22:35:29

    So… I guess this means I need to destroy my shrines to Ryan Gosling, Ryan Reynolds, Hugh Jackman, Hugh Jackman’s Eyebrow, and Gerard Butler, respectively??

    lol. I kid, I kid. (mostly.) Excellent point. We can’t very well demand NOT to be objectified as women, and then turn around and do the same to men.


    • halee
      Apr 11, 2012 @ 02:03:14

      Lol! I’m just wondering how you have room for all those shrines…


  3. Beth Pensinger
    Apr 11, 2012 @ 15:11:48

    Well said!


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