20 Random Questions

The lovely and talented Laurie Tomlinson tagged me in a 20 Random Questions blog hop post. So I thought, why not? I’m sure you’re all dying to know what I was like in high school… 😉
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  1. How tall are you?
    5’8″ in flats. Yep, I’m one of the “tall” girls. (You should see me in heels!) No, I don’t play basketball.
  2. Do you have a hidden talent? If so, what is it?
    Um, I’m pretty good at guessing people’s MBTI personality types… And I’ve been known to make candles. I particularly love creating specialized scents.
  3. What’s your biggest blog-related pet peeve?
    Blogs where writers only write about writing and how to write and writing tips and oh all the writing about writing. That’s all well and good, but if I wanted advice/tips, I’d buy a book. I’m reading your blog because I want to know you as a human. Assuming you are human… Otherwise, tell me what it’s like to be a zombie or an android or whatever. I don’t judge.
  4. What’s your biggest non blog-related pet peeve?
    Self-centeredness/selfishness. It really irks and saddens me.
  5. What’s your favorite song?
    Um. Only one? It changes pretty often, but right now I’m really into “Love Me Again” by John Newman.
  6. What’s your favorite Etsy shop that isn’t yours?
    I don’t think I have one favorite shop, but I love buying jewelry on Etsy. And I got a winter coat from Etsy last year, randomly enough. I’ve been planning to open my own shop for a while now. Maybe one day.
  7. What’s your favorite way to spend your free time when you’re alone?
    I’m a constant multi-tasker so I’ll watch tv while I knit or make cards. Or I’ll write while listening to music.
  8. What’s your favorite junk food?
    I try to eat pretty healthily but I do have a weakness for Chick-fil-A fries. If you’ve never tried those golden waffle fries, you haven’t lived.
  9. Do you have a pet or pets? If so, what kind and what are their names?
    Not currently, but we’re planning to adopt two cats once we finish renovating our house. I’d love for at least one of them to be black, since they’re often the first ones to be euthanized at animal shelters. If I could, I’d adopt ten black cats, but that would probably get kind of messy.
  10. What are your #1 favorite fiction and nonfiction books?
    Oh goodness. Well, I generally don’t read much nonfiction, but my friend Beth wrote an awesome book that I love, called Let Me Fall. As for fiction, let’s just say pretty much anything by Mary Higgins Clark.
  11. What’s your favorite beauty product?
    Coconut oil, does that count? It’s great for your hair, your skin. Oh, and I’m a big fan of lip balm, all kinds.
  12. When were you last embarrassed? What happened?
    Well. You had to ask, didn’t you. A couple weekends ago, my husband and I went to see The Maze Runner, and at the end I got up and nearly bit it in front of a bunch of people because my heel caught on the edge of the little light strip bump. The good news is, I didn’t hit the floor. I just flailed a bit. So yeah. Good times.
  13. If you could drink one beverage (besides water) for the rest of your life, what would it be?
    Coffee, obviously. In fact, I pretty much just drink water and coffee. I’m pretty sure that’s a balanced diet right there.
  14. What’s your favorite movie?
    The King’s Speech, followed closely by The Emperor’s Club. (Hm. I’m sensing a title pattern.)
  15. What were you in high school: prom queen, nerd, cheerleader, jock, valedictorian, band geek, loner, artist, prep?
    I’m offended that you don’t have a category for it: theatre geek. With a hint of overachieving, over-involved loner student.
  16. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you live?
    Well, I’d have to try them all to know. Obviously I can’t commit to anywhere I haven’t visited yet, so I need to do a ton more traveling. But out of all the places I’ve lived so far, I like Virginia the best.
  17. PC or Mac?
    Mac, like so much. Every time I have to use a PC, my efficiency slows down by about 50%. And I can feel my creativity shriveling up like a raisin.
  18. Last romantic gesture from a crush, date, boy/girlfriend, spouse?
    Wait a minute, did a romance writer create this list? 😉 My husband makes me an omelette for breakfast every Saturday. It’s one of the things he makes that I can never do quite as well. (Another is grilled cheese sandwiches. I’m bad at flipping. I overthink it and question everything halfway through the flip.)
  19. Favorite celebrity?
    Nope. Wait, Jaime Wright. She’s a celebrity to me and freakin’ awesome.
  20. What blogger do you secretly want to be best friends with?
    I don’t read as many blogs as I’d like, so I don’t have a good answer for that one. But if you asked me what author I want to be best friends with, um, Mary Higgins Clark? Or just an afternoon with her would be grand. I’m low-maintenance like that.

There ya go. More than you wanted to know, I’m sure.

Is there anything not covered by this list that you’d like to learn about me? Feel free to add a question in the comments.

Waiting to dream

Confession: I’m totally jealous of people who can fall asleep any time, anywhere.

Granted, I’m sure it’s a tad annoying when you fall asleep in the middle of a boring meeting, but you have no idea what a blessing it is to know that when you lie down, you will fall asleep.

It’s not that simple for me. See, it’s highly likely that I have Delayed Sleep Phase Syndrome (DSPS). (It’s totally a real thing, I promise.) It basically means that I can’t fall asleep at a “normal time” so it’s hard to get up at a socially acceptable time. A lot of people don’t get that. They’re all, “Why don’t you just go to bed earlier?”

So cute, those people who think going to bed is equal to falling asleep. I’m happy that they clearly have never had trouble falling asleep. But that’s not how it works for me. I can be incredibly tired, but if it’s before midnight, it’s not happening. Not unless I’m completely “haven’t slept in 24 hours” type of exhausted. In most cases, I don’t fall asleep until after 2 am.

It’s not for lack of trying, I promise you. Just imagine if you had to fall asleep at 5 pm. That’s what it feels like when someone with DSPS tries to fall asleep before midnight.

I read once that for people with DSPS, maintaining socially-acceptable hours feels like functioning with constant jet lag. No joke. Been there. It’s exhausting. Unlike a lot of people with DSPS, I did manage to hold down a normal hours job for a while. How? Mostly by being tired and drinking lots of coffee. And then hibernating for 12 hours on Friday night.

I’ve been this way since I was a kid. It was a running joke in my family, about how I always slept until noon on Saturdays. They just thought I was lazy and slept a lot. What they didn’t see was that when they all went to sleep at 9 pm, I was lying in bed, wide awake until after midnight, and then I had to get up at 6 am for school. That’s not a lot of sleep for a high schooler.

But it wasn’t all bad. Because when I was just a little kid, lying there in the dark for hours, waiting for sleep to find me, I would imagine things. I would pretend I was lost at sea or living on a houseboat with my friends. I’d create other worlds and situations and adventures. It forced me to learn how to entertain myself even before I drifted into my dreams.

It’s easy to look at other people and wish I could be like them. But I’m not. I never have been. And more and more I realize, I don’t want to be.

Confession: I can entertain myself any time, anywhere. Who needs sleep when you can dream while you’re awake?